Kids need to know you are human. You can tell them you’re not sure what the best decision is and that you’re doing your best, if that's the case. You're not going to lose their respect just because you're being honest and authentic.
You can say you’re sorry when you realize you’ve made a mistake. Don't feel the need to be perfect. Take that pressure off yourself and let your kids see that you are human, just like them!
It's a journey and you are all in this thing together. Your position in the home is not based on performance. You acquired the position as parent the day you brought your child into the world.
Growing into your role takes time. When the family takes the journey together, everyone gets an equal dose of mercy and grace.
When you find yourself saying words like “STOP,” “COME,” or “NO,” and discover you’re getting little to no cooperation, you’ve lost the power of your words. The reason such commands are labeled as “power words” are because they are one word statements that should have a big impact. When you can combine a lot of words or ideas into a one-word instruction and get your point across, you have a “power word.” You know you’re effectively using your power words when your child knows exactly how to respond and complies without delay. Decide what you want to happen when you say your power word, break down the desired outcome into specific action steps, and then practice using your power word until you get exactly what you expect with consistent, positive results.
When parents give in to believing good behavior in public is the most that one can hope for, everyone begins to tolerate poor behavior at home. A better strategy might be employed by practicing good behavior on home turf and then taking it to the road. Going out in public is akin to test day. Public areas are where you determine whether your child has mastered the training that takes place at home. This mindset requires a whole different way of thinking. Our children don't like practicing self control, patience, kindness and hard work. That's no surprise. But when behavior needs some work and expectations are set at home, you can be sure that the improvements will automatically show up in public as well.
Today's woman has a preconceived expectation thrust upon her, like it or not. She is expected to be breathtaking physically and emotionally stimulating, intelligent, funny, capable, responsible and doer of all. She works hard, skillfully navigating every day's challenges, entertaining co-workers, friends and family while building her self worth by devouring books on self improvement, faithfully doing her yoga and meditation, managing the home with ease and enriching lives everywhere she goes. The reality is that her job demands 100% of her time and energy, while the family demands the same. Neither cares what sacrifices must be made to fill the voids that scream for attention. It's a tug of war for the most precious commodity she possesses - her time & energy. Can you relate?