2017 - CALENDAR TIPS
As of January 1, 2017, we're tackling various parenting challenges each month for the whole year. If you've signed up to receive email updates, you've gotten a rundown on some pretty common challenges we're going to address.
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Each month a quick tip will arrive in your email box addressing strategies and solutions for that month's parenting challenge. For more information on each month's tip, check back here to learn more.
Our first tip and in depth strategy for the month of January is as follows....
JANUARY - "SLEEP IS SUPER"
Nap time is part of the daily schedule.
That doesn't mean your little one even has to be sleepy....
Develop the habit of a regular schedule of rest.
Quiet time is for everybody's benefit......
Children aren't born with an internal clock that matches the world they are brought into. Therefore, it's a parent's job, usually, to get everyone sleeping or resting at the same time.
Start by limiting daytime naps. The frequency and length of naptime is determined by the age of your little one. Of course, newborns need to sleep and eat round the clock, but that certainly is not the case for a six month old and beyond.
Use this formula as a guide for 6-9 months of age, making adjustments where you see the need....
Determine what time the day begins. For our purposes, let's say 6:00 am.
Begin with a WAKING ROUTINE (eating, change of clothes and diapers, and freshening up for the day) This is followed by play, learning, physical activity, and socialization. This might bring you to about 9:00 am. This is a good time for nap or period of rest lasting about 2 hrs.
Awake around 11:00am for the early afternoon portion of the day.
Repeat schedule similar to that stated above for WAKING ROUTINE (eat, change of diaper as needed, freshen up). Follow up with play, learning, physical activity and socialization. Include during this time any driving, scheduled activities, shopping....anything that is part of an active daytime routine in the family. This might bring you to about 2:00pm or so. This is a good time for a nap or period of rest lasting 2 hrs.
Awake around 4:00 or so for the early evening portion of the day.
Repeat schedule similar to that stated above for WAKING ROUTINE, followed by activity as stated above. This might bring you to about 7 or even 8pm. This is a good time for a final bottle or nursing, change of diaper, change into pjs and down for the night. By 8:30pm, bedtime sounds, lighting, and mood should set the tone for little ones, letting them know the day has ended.
This is the FIRST STEP in creating a good night's sleep for all....and to all, good night!
If you have any questions or comments regarding this first step, I'd love to hear your thoughts!
"SLEEP IS SUPER",part 2, coming soon so check back often ;-).
From the Coach.....
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I buy at my local Farmers’ Market. I love the enthusiastic, proud faces offering samples of freshly-baked bread, showing off just-picked apples, and telling me to imagine their tomatoes dramatized by Beth Johnson’s gourmet sea salts. It’s the real deal. We hunger for the real deal, and not just in food. We hunger for real conversations. And if we think it might be a difficult conversation, then many of us resign ourselves to going hungry. Real conversations are still relatively rare. Manipulative conversations—the weapon of the weak—abound…as does fake food, rich in calories but devoid of nourishment. It doesn’t have to be that way. “Quoted from Ingrid Martine”
LOVING THE MESSAGE OF THIS VIDEO!
IT'S ALL A GIFT.
I SUSPECT ENTITLEMENT JUST DIMINISHES THE JOY OF GRATITUDE.
ENTITLEMENT ISSUES OF TODAY'S GENERATION
It is strangely ironic that the freedoms and affluence we enjoy in our society are the very things that stand to ruin our children if not addressed early and effectively.
The consumer-credit industry is doing all it can to get your kids to fall for the buy-now, pay-later lifestyle. If you do nothing to intervene, statistics indicate that your child is headed for a life that will be severely impacted not by credit—credit is not the problem here—but by the debt it can create. ”Mary Hunt of Everyday Cheapskate”
Entitlement issues plague our society. How is that affecting our children? How will that affect the next generation of adults? What questions should we be asking ourselves as we go about our daily lives? How are our children perceiving the decisions we make each and every day? The future will answer these questions if we can’t answer them ourselves……just something to consider.
We live in a country where we regularly hear the phrase “you deserve it!” Wow, really? Let’s think about this for a minute. What does it mean to “deserve” something? What have we really done to “deserve” the something we feel entitled to? Who gets to determine that something is deserved and what is the basis or standard upon which this judgement is made? And lastly, what is this saying to our children??!!
What kinds of thoughts and behaviors are being developed in our children these days as a result of entitlement assumptions?
ON THE TOPIC OF REJECTION
“You feel Rejected..... So what? Just because you feel rejected does not mean you’re ‘a reject’. Ie. just because we FEEL it does NOT make it true! This is a fabulous reframe. Rejection is not truth, it’s just a feeling – and it will pass.”
This applies to parenting and life in general. If we are looking for affirmation from our children, we are dragging them into our own personal issues and not serving them well or even ourselves as parents. Become aware of motives. Ask the tough questions: Why am I finding validation in the affirmation of my child? Why am I hurt that my child is rejecting me at this time? Dig deep and ask the hard questions. Give yourself permission to explore the “back of the closet”…..cleaning house always exposes lost treasures
I welcome your comments…..